Menifee parents apathetic?

I saw this article about Menifee parents (of Bell Mountain Middle School students) and felt immediately defensive, however it is a topic wor...

I saw this article about Menifee parents (of Bell Mountain Middle School students) and felt immediately defensive, however it is a topic worth considering...

The 'Head in the Sand' award

A raspberry to apathetic parents in the Menifee Union School District.Educators recently organized a presentation on Internet safety for parents at Bell Mountain Middle School in Menifee.
The seminar was spurred, at least in part, by at least three recent incidents of local middle school students posting video clips on the Internet of kids fighting each other.To publicize the event, the school district sent out fliers, posted information on its Web site and sent automated phone calls to families across the city.
Despite these efforts, on the night of the big event, only three parents showed up. Among them were a school board member and a teacher. They were far outnumbered by the one lieutenant, three sheriff's deputies and nine local school district administrators who were there to host the meeting.
We all have busy lives, but parents in Menifee and elsewhere should be a little more interested in some of the pitfalls waiting for kids, in both the real world and online.
By The Californian Opinion staff Monday, May 4, 2009 12:10 AM PDT


I for one would agree that the Youtube craze and other such internet sites, popularly used for, shall we say "personal expression," are places that can be of great danger to our kids. In addition, I recently read an article while sitting in the doctors waiting room. (It was a very long article, however, my wait was even longer so I read the entire thing) It referred to the number of kids (ages 10 to 16) that are actually sending pornographic pictures of themselves via cell phones, to other kids. Mostly boyfriends or girlfriends etc...

Now, given the level of e-danger to our kids that is out there, I am curious about the determination that it was "apathy" that made parents skip this event. I would love to hear from local parents on this...

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  1. Lack of concern or "who is the school to tell me what to do" attitude? If you check the post we see plenty of comments from parents about kids etc. It is to bad the district felt compelled to hold a seminar to inform parents and no one shows up. Don't complain when your kids have to goto perris for school if no one supports our district.

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  2. This is typical government bureaucrats taking the actions of a few bad apples and trying to scare the general population in a lame attempt to justify their existence. I'm almost at a point where I can homeschool my kids and get them out of this corrupt and failing school system. I'm glad no one showed up to their little meeting. The kids were probably sending pornographic pictures of themselves at school where they are not properly supervised rather than at home where the parents can watch them.

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  3. Don't you dare blame the teachers. They are perfect.

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  4. I have two children in the Menifee school district one of which is at Bell. I never recieved any notice of this meeting. No papers were brought home and no phone calls were recieved. Also I am an employee of the Menifee school district. I cant imagine something like this happening and not hearing about it. I would like to know how many parents did or didnt know about this meeting?

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  5. Never heard a word about it until I got on this site. I also have a child at Bell and my wife works for the district. They didn't try very hard to contact parents.

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  6. It is this wonderful school system that we have here in Menifee.. Elementary schools are good but the 2 middle schools we have here are awful. Do people really know what is going on @ Menifee Middle? They punish all the kids for he few bad apples ie; all the fights that go on there they have no control I am so sick of that place..But all the unions want to protect the bad teachers and the liberals in this country don't want school choice. UGHHHHHHH

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  7. It is amazing that people blame everyone but themselves. It isn't the teachers, police, or anyone else's job to teach your kids wrong from right. parents are apathetic. Schools do their best to get info out to parents through pone calls flyers that students are expected to bring home to mom and dad. If you didn't get the info, talk to your kids. Bad teachers and Unions? What are you talking about? Rotten parents produce rotten kids. My parents taught me right from wrong. My parents weren't my best friends and I knew my place. Good parents aren't apathetic, and there are lots of us. If you think the unions and teachers and the schools are to balme for "those kids" then you are part of the issue. You need a license to drive, own a gun, go fishing etc..., but you don't need oneto become a parent. Lucky thing for some of you.

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  8. Sadly, I’d have to agree that apathy infects the parents in Menifee. This link is for an Op-Ed piece from the Press Enterprise.

    http://www.pe.com/localnews/opinion/localviews/stories/PE_OpEd_Opinion_S_op_anderson_15_loc.3c7b35f.html

    All the observations in the article were made at Menifee playgrounds, watching parents completely ignore their children as they are too wrapped up in their own personal online lives. Why do we have higher expectations for our children when the parents Twitter, update their Myspace pages, and sent text messages when they should be parenting. Many young parents in Menifee are just iphoning it in.

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  10. Parents these days are more concerned with instilling a postive self-esteem than actually raising kids. Kids today curse like fools, disrespect adults and others in society, etc... But has anyone else noticed that manyof the parents in our area act like children themselves. Men dress and act like teenagers. Where is the self respect. How do you expect kids to have respect for others when their parents lack respect. Many students act up in school because their parents are push overs who fall for anything. Schools make mistakes, no doubt, as all humans do, but the blame for the attitudes of many teens today falls directly on the parents and nobody else.

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  11. No one ever fought when I was in school. We were all good kids.

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  12. I am a parent of a Bell student, I am a stay at home mother and NEVER got any information regarding this presentation. It is a shame there wasn't a better turn out...knowledge is power, anything can help! As for some of the previous comments: I have this to say, while I realize it may seem fun to parent like Britney Spears and clearly Menifee has a large population of these completely imprudent beings...it is not in the best interest of our children. Since when did teaching your child to have Honor, Character and Integrity become the responsibility of anyone but PARENTS. Check your state standards folks thats what they are taught and the rest is up to you! Let me leave you with a tip of the day: if you have a cell phone and a computer you can access your cell phone account and discover anything you want to know about any cell phones on your account...yes,anything. While discovering this you can also put many different types of blocks on cell phones. Try it sometime you will be amazed!

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  13. Even if the calls did go out what's not to say the child couldn't erase the message...cousin erases messages from his grandmothers phone kids aren't stupid...they live in Orange Co.

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  14. Raise your kids right. Someday they will be in charge of you.

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  15. I never recieved a phone call about the event. I have a student who goes to BMMS. I never recieved any flyer either. I agree with poster that said there are blocks you can add to cell phones!! My child has no internet access and is not able to text. Also my home computer is in plain view where I can see what she is doing. It our job as parents to raise our kids not teachers.

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  16. Once again teachers pointing the finger at parents and lumping the super majority of good kids in with the few trouble makers. If all kids were respectful anyone could be a teacher. Unfortunately today’s teachers are teaching for a paycheck, not to develop the kids into adults, like they did in the past.

    “watching parents completely ignore their children as they are too wrapped up in their own personal online lives”: There are a number of teachers that sit on their cell phones and on the computers in class while the kids teach themselves. So maybe the teachers need to start looking inward instead of blaming parents all of the time.

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  17. STOP YOUR CRYING. Instead of waiting for phone calls and flyers be PRO-ACTIVE in your childs life and school. If you don't like free education then pay for private school. then you will have something else to bitch about.

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  18. Anonymous at 7:17am, May 7.

    You are part of the problem. What dreamland do you live in. Yes their are some horrible teachers, just as their are horrible cops, cashiers, bricklayers, etc... but teacher shouldn't be all about disciplining your children. No you couldn't teach, nor can just anybody. A teacher's job should be to teach. Our children should have been taught the skills needed to act properly in a classroom/social setting. The fact that many students these days can't function in a social setting reflects less on a teacher's inability to teach than a parent's inability to properly raise their children. If you actually believe it is the teachers responsibility to teach kid